Suicide Prevention

It may not seem like it. It may not feel like right now. But you’re not alone.

Whether it’s a break-up, financial distress, a health crisis, or a cascade of seemingly insurmountable problems can make you feel like giving up.

Did you know?

Men are three times more likely to die by suicide. Don’t let the darkness win. You are not alone. If you’re in a crisis, talk to someone right now. Reach out to someone you trust – a friend, family member, therapist, clergy member, or call a crisis hotline.

Free help is a phone call or text away, 988 is there for you 24 hours a day!

Men typically face unique societal pressures and stigmas that can make it difficult for them to seek help. When it comes to matters of depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, these pressures can prevent men from reaching out for the support we need.

One major factor is the expectation to conform to traditional masculine roles. Society often emphasizes traits like self-reliance and invulnerability, pressuring men to suppress their emotions and refrain from seeking help. We’ve all heard the phrase, “rub some dirt on it”. This emotional bottling can exacerbate feelings of isolation and despair and eventually self harm.

Economic pressures also play a significant role. Men are frequently viewed as the primary breadwinners of a family, a status that can become a source of intense stress, especially during times of financial instability or job loss. The shame and stigma associated with perceived failure to provide can drive men to drastic measures, including contemplating suicide.

Additionally, social isolation is a major factor. While women often have stronger social networks for emotional support, men might find it challenging to cultivate such relationships due to societal norms discouraging vulnerable conversations. Lack of a robust support system can leave men feeling isolated, not knowing who to turn to talk to, and struggling to cope with life’s challenges.

All the Reason You Need to Seek Help

The suicide rate increases 2.5 times among family members when a loved dies by suicide. That means family members teach and shape the way their children and other relatives view suicide. That’s why they say breaking the cycle is critical. Suicide is permanent. Our individual struggles are not. You are not a burden. People – even those who may have never met you yet – care about you.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988.

How to Help Someone Who is Struggling

Supporting someone who is struggling can be challenging, but your intervention could make a life-saving difference. Here are steps you can take to help:

● Create a Safe Space: Ensure that the person feels comfortable and understood. Listen without judgment and offer them a safe space to open up.

● Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their pain and distress. Let them know it’s okay to feel this way and that they are not alone. Sometimes, simply knowing that someone else understands can provide significant relief.

● Focus on Hope: Remind them that help is available and that there’s hope for the future. Encourage them to think about the reasons they want to live and the positive aspects of their life, no matter how small they may seem.

After the Conversation: What’s Next?

Once you have had an initial conversation, the next steps are:

● Don’t Leave Them Alone: Stay with them or ensure they’re connected with a trusted individual who can provide support. Isolation can exacerbate feelings of hopelessness.

● Help Them Get Help: Encourage them to call a crisis hotline, reach out to a mental health professional, or visit a healthcare provider. Offer to accompany them if they’re comfortable with that approach.

● Follow Up: Regularly check in to see how they’re doing and offer ongoing support. Consistent follow-ups demonstrate that you care and can make a significant difference.

Additional Tips for Supporting Men’s Mental Health

Avoid Minimizing Their Feelings

Phrases like “Everyone feels this way sometimes” or “It’s not that bad” can invalidate their experiences and discourage them from seeking help. It’s important to take their feelings seriously.

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask About Suicidal Thoughts

Direct questions can open the door to honest communication. You might say, “I’ve noticed you seem really down lately. Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” This can help normalize the conversation around mental health.

Be Prepared for Resistance

They might not be receptive at first, but persistence is key. Your continued support and reassurance might eventually make them comfortable enough to seek help.

Take Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone who is struggling can be emotionally draining. It’s essential to seek support for yourself from friends, family, or a therapist to ensure you can continue to help others.

Remember

You can’t force someone to get help, but you can plant the seeds of hope and encourage them to reach out. Your willingness to have this conversation can be the lifeline a loved one needs.

Sources of Support

There are numerous resources available for anyone struggling with suicidal thoughts or mental health challenges. Sharing these resources with a loved one can provide them with immediate support and professional guidance.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

The Lifeline provides 24/7, free, and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources. They can be reached at 988.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline

A confidential, free, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. They can be reached at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

Crisis Text Line

This is a free, confidential texting service available 24/7. To reach out, text HOME to 741741 or visit Crisis Text Line.